I put NSFW because I’m not entirely sure if what I’m about to talk about is appropriate for all audiences. So, if you’re young and impressionable, I suggest that you not use this post as a guide for how to act while on a date.
I met Adam at a party about a month and a half ago. We exchanged numbers and, well, the whole background story is in previous posts (clicking the “Adam” tag on my profile will take you to all of the posts regarding him). Anyway, after giving up on The Rules, I texted him asking him to hang out. We decided to see Skyfall. One thing you must know about me is that I am considerate through and through. I won’t take a guy to see Perks of Being a Wallflower or Twilight just because they’re things I want to see because I know that they’re (probably) not things he wants to see. I can enjoy a well-done action movie just as much as I can enjoy a well-done movie about anything (Twilight is not what I consider “well-done” for those of you wondering).
What I failed to notice while making plans was that Skyfall is a very long movie (2 hours and 23 minutes, to be exact). Considering that most movies nowadays run around an hour and a half to 45 minutes, this complicates things. See, people become accustomed to sitting in a theatre for a certain period of time. Going over that time is just asking them to check their phones or get up to use the bathroom (which is why Titanic had so many people talking and was released on not one, but two VHS tapes). However, I’m one of the few who are capable of not looking at a phone to check the time or to respond to a text for however long is necessary. You bought a ticket for a film - why do you need to check the time? Do you have a deadline that must be met? If so, why did you plan to see a movie knowing that you’d be infringing on that timeline? You know that you’re going to be spending a few hours watching a movie, so keep your phone in your pocket and enjoy the film.
As if it needs to be said, don’t check your phone while you’re on a date. That says you’re bored or incapable of being entertained - hinting at being high maintenance. And definitely, never ever text another guy (or girl) while you’re on a date. And ABSOLUTELY don’t leave the theatre because a phone number not saved in your contacts called you and it’s 10:30pm on a Thursday night and you should call them back.
Guess what Adam did?
With forty-five minutes remaining in the film, he checked his phone “to look at the time.” And then, less than a minute later, checked his phone again to text a girl. And then checked his missed calls. And then left the theatre to make a call. And the brightness on his phone was all the way up.
I found this incredibly rude, but that doesn’t mean it was going to ruin my night. No, that simply means he’s not getting a second date with me unless he puts in some effort to show he cares.
After the film, we went to grab some food. I hadn’t eaten dinner and we were both feeling a little hungry, so we stopped at a nearby fast food place to share some fries.
Now, you’ll all probably judge me for this, so I feel I should preface it with the following: I don’t get a lot of opportunities to be physical. Part of me feels it’s important to stay ‘brushed up,’ if you will, and another part feels that it’s important to fill up the tank at the nearest gas station because you don’t know when you’ll see another gas station again. To translate, I flirted enough for him to kiss me. And it wasn’t a Rules kiss, either. Oh no, there was quite a bit more than casual kissing on this first date. After eating, we stood next to his car and pressed our faces against one another’s for about ten minutes. And then we got inside his car and we fooled around. It started with my hand on his pants, and then my hand in his pants, and then my mouth on his…
So we did that for awhile and I worried he was nearing completion. Not wanting to embarrass myself by explaining that I’m not well-practiced enough to not heave up my food after swallowing his youknowwhat…and feeling like he didn’t exactly deserve that kind of happy ending after how rude he’d been to me, I found myself in a bit of a predicament.
How do I get out of this without embarrassing myself?
Fortunately, a janitor for the fast food place we’d just been at had parked next to us before we arrived and conveniently happened to walk back to his car for something just as this predicament came to a head (pun). I feigned fear that this person would see us and that we should stop, and Adam reluctantly agreed to humor my ‘fears.’
In laymen’s terms, I blue balled him. And looking back, I kind of feel that it was called for because of his inconsiderate choices to chat with another girl while watching a movie with me.
And yet, through all of this, he texted me today to wish me a happy thanksgiving and texted me earlier in the week to ask me how things are.
Not entirely certain what that says about him, or if it speaks more on the effectiveness of my decision to do as I please without The Rules, but it’s interesting to say the least.